A Message For the People Pleaser

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For the People Pleaser…

Does asking for help come easily to you?⁠

I know for me, I can sometimes go days, months, even years without asking for the help that I actually need.⁠

I think this has something to do with the “People Pleaser” that likes to visit my body from time to time. Sometimes she marks her territory, pitches a tent, and decides to hang around and camp a lot longer than necessary.⁠

I usually bump into Miss People Pleaser when I start a new job or meet new people. She also likes to be a third wheel in my relationship at times.⁠

And she was definitely by my side in high school.⁠

Fun fact about me- I was only put on detention at school once in my life and it was literally because I was giggling too much. I had to stay a whopping 5 minutes after class, and I cried about it because I had let the teacher down…

The People Pleaser in me has been around for a while. But she is backing off a bit these days- especially now that I’m:⁠

1) Learning to say “no”⁠

2) Learning to let go of perfectionism⁠

3) Learning that I can’t connect with and/or please everybody⁠

4) Learning to ask for help when I need it⁠

5) And learning to open up and receive⁠

I think as women it can be easy for us to get lost in all our different roles. We can be the mother, the teacher, the nurse, the wife, the cook, the cleaner, the employee, the side biz owner, the therapist, the lover, the friend, the maintenance guy, the dog walker, the doormat…⁠

It can be a lot to take on.⁠

Stop for a moment. Breathe. Really take a look at what matters.⁠

Do you know what really matters?⁠


Know that it’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay to be the one that’s listened to. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to not be perfect. It’s okay to put yourself first.⁠

Fill your cup right up with self-love and care and begin to serve from the overflow.⁠

If you feel a soul nudge to ask for help- I’m currently offering 90 minute Mini Soul Cleanse Sessions where we focus on 2 specific areas in your life that you feel you need support in. Plus, you’ll receive extra soul cleanse bonuses to support you further on your journey. Click here for more info. 

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Take care,

Lauren x